Wives are we a Help Meet or a Hinderance?

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I did a little word study on what a "help meet" is and was truly convicted by the Word of God and the definitions. Sadly, so many times I am the antonym rather than the synonym. I hope this will help someone else as much as it helped me.....Now for the hard part....putting it into practice ;)

~And the Lord said,  it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him…And the Lord God caused a great sleep to fall upon Adam…and he took one of his ribs…And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. Gen 2:18, 21-22

Do we help or hinder  our husbands by our words and actions? So many times, regretfully, I hinder him.  Instead of giving words of encouragement, I criticize. Instead of befriending him, there are times I treat him like he's my worst enemy.  We need to ask ourselves this question before we speak, "If I talked or acted this way to my friends, would they still want to hang around me?"  Most of the time, we would have to answer "no"   Lord Help!! Our husbands are the ones who have promised "till death do us part" yet sometimes we treat them like we want them dead! Lord, help us all to be the help meet we need to be so that we are right with God and have a marriage that is a little piece of heaven on earth!

Here is what I found...allow it sink into your spirit and soul and change your heart for the Glory of God!
 Help-

Synonyms: Encourage, befriend, support, second, uphold, back, furnish another with something needed, to give timely help and relief in difficulty or distress, cure, heal

Antonyms: Hinder, afflict, be a hindrance

 verb (used with object)

1. to give or provide what is necessary to accomplish a task or satisfy a need; contribute strength or means to; render assistance to; cooperate effectively with; aid; assist

2. to save; rescue; succor

3. to make easier or less difficult; contribute to; facilitate

4. to be useful or profitable to

5. to refrain from; avoid

6.to relieve or break the uniformity of

7.to relieve (someone) in need, sickness, pain, or distress.

8.to remedy, stop, or prevent

9.to serve food to at table

10.to serve or wait on (a customer), as in a store.

11.to give aid; be of service or advantage

noun

12. the act of helping; aid or assistance; relief or succor.

13. a person or thing that helps.

14. a hired helper; employee.

15. a body of such helpers.

16. a domestic servant or a farm laborer.

Meet-

adjective

Proper, fitting, correct, suitable

Who are you?

Have you ever considered asking yourself this question? Who am I and how am I coming across to those around me? I would rather be known as someone who loves people and tries to encourage them than someone who is known for start controversy and pointless debates. How are we training those following us to be?

If you think about it....it was the Pharisees who were always trying to debate and act "Spiritual". The Pharisee's wanted to cast stones....Christ wanted to love and forgive. He showed love to the woman caught in the act of adultery and told the Pharisee's "let he who is without sin cast the 1st stone"
We need to ask ourselves, if we were living in Bible times, which crowd would we be running with ? "Pharisees" or "Christians"....some have already answered that question with their words and attitudes......
It was the love of Christ that drew me to him, I have never heard of someone coming to know Christ through a debate on a public forum on things such as: whether it's OK to paint your toenails a certain color or not. I have, however, heard of those being convicted of their sins by people simply preaching and teaching about Christ and the love and grace He bestows upon us all ...."For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved." John 3:17......and yes, I have painted my toenails all different colors if it matched a outfit I was wearing!
......and yes, I still believe in BIBLICAL separation, just tired of all the people that ACT like they are so much more "Spiritual" because they don't go here or there or wear this or that....our righteousness is as filthy rags.

We recently went to six flags and got glares and "proud looks" from the Pharisee crowd (who we knew personally) because we didn't meet THEIR standards of approval. All of us girls were dressed feminine and modest, but because it didn't meet their criteria and because it was sleeveless, it was wrong in their eyes. My son was dressed masculine, but heaven forbid, he was wearing shorts!!! gasp!!

A lot of people want to taunt you with Deut.22:5 (the main point of this Scripture is distinction of gender), but they somehow overlook the fact that Proverbs 6:17 tells us that God hates a" proud look" and that it's an abomination to him just as much as cross dressing!
I remember growing up seeing men of God spend most of a Saturday praying to God and studying His Word and seeking God's face for a sermon,and nowadays you see them spending a whole day debating on facebook about pointless things that aren't gonna matter in eternity, and we wonder why our churches are what they are....they're only as strong as their leader.

My daughter was personally with a "Pharisee" one day at the mall and heard her making a comment about a guy that had long hair and how sick it was. Then the girl gave him a dirty look because of it....my question is...How will this help someone come to know Christ ?....time is running out, and while we're so busy giving proud looks and being judgmental, people are dying without Christ.
I would much rather be labeled as someone who sat with sinners rather than someone who was so standard and conviction minded that I hindered someone from coming to know Christ or hurt another brother or sister in Christ.
So, if you see me in public and give me one of those looks, I will be thinking the same thing you are....how sick!! Only I will be thinking about how sick a proud look is..... I am so thankful to finally be free to only concern myself with what God thinks of me! He is really all that matters, when this thing is over!!

God is always on time

Late Sunday evening my husband started getting a headache and sore throat. By Tuesday evening he was feeling really bad after working all day....so today I took him to the Dr.....he has what the Dr. thinks is strep throat and needed an antibiotic. Today was the first time since 2001 that he has been to the Dr.(not counting one time to the emergency room for kidney stones)

We haven't had health insurance for years (due to the fact that my husband was self employed) but thank the Lord we have recently gotten it through the Union my husband, Rob works for. It was so recent that we just got our insurance card in the mail yesterday.

I just think it's awesome how that God knew ahead of time that he would get sick and which day it would be and always provides for our needs....."your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him." Matthew 6:8.

I have heard of so many women leaving the home out of worry and to make sure to provide insurance or so called "necessities" for the family and all the while her children are confiding in others for their counsel. Also, they are learning how to live life through strangers who don't have their best interests in mind.

Our children are precious gifts given to us by God and we only have once chance to train them up for the Lord! I am so thankful for a husband that trusts God enough to allow me to be a keeper at home :) I am also thankful that while I am busy being a keeper at home, God is busy handling the insurance and any other need that I have and I can depend on him to meet my every need!